So everyone has sex. Well… we hope so. Let’s just assume that they do. Yet when having sex, the type, style, quality and quantity will vary.

My two friends and I started randomly having a conversation about our sex lives one night at a home bar (discussions like this could only occur at such a setting), and what came up was quite interesting.

One of the girls has had a lot of sex with many partners and will jump into bed with someone relatively quickly. Yet, when she is sleeping with whoever it is- the sex is simple, often missionary style being her favourite position. She has never explored a sex shop or used any kind of sexual additive or toy in the bedroom.

The other female and I are the complete opposite. We will take a while to sleep with someone, believing that sex can be kept sacred, and best enjoyed in a more serious relationship. But when we are having sex, we will damn well make sure it is kept exciting – adding numerous levels of spice to the mix – from lingerie to games to toys.

We were having a good laugh around this topic and decided to label the different characters we embodied- the girl who sleeps around but has somewhat “boring” sex is the ‘Conservative Slut’ and the girl who waits yet makes it worth the wait- the ‘Kinkish Prude.

There is no right or wrong way of doing things when it comes to sex. The point is not to judge any sexual character we encounter. There are those who still heavily judge even a classy sex shop like ‘Boudoir Boutique.’ What they fail to realise is a large bracket of people coming in to spice up their sex lives are those whom one would never expect to – religious people and conservative looking types. They are in monogamous relationships and maybe this is what keeps their relationships strong. Other so-called liberals are actually very conservative and scared to explore anything new.

Basically, it’s about time we stopped assumptions and started thinking about what we really want out of sex – quality, quantity, safety or seduction? Even though I said there is no wrong or right, it’s always a good thing to explore areas we wouldn’t usually find ourselves comfortable in.

So, push yourself, push the bounds, and start finding your true sexual character! We all have a group of girlfriends we can think of who display unique sexual qualities. Which one are you? Who do you want to be? There are obviously many more than those two described here- there is also the girl who sleeps around and utilises every level of spice there is – the ‘Kinky Slut.’  Let’s not go there – for now….